While preparations for holidays are underway, it is important to stay patient with yourself and others.
Jonathan Grantham of Life Help said the holidays can be difficult for some because of loss, illness, financial hardship or loneliness.
“While this time of year is a source of joy for some, many negative emotions intensify for people during the holidays,” he said.
Grief was the first that came to his mind. His advice is to be patient. “Grief is not necessarily linear, and it is unpredictable, often sneaking up when you don’t expect it,” he said.
Traditions and memories of past holidays, coupled with seeing others gathering, can bring up memories of people who are no longer around. This “tends to make people more susceptible to grief,” he said. “Remind yourself that grief is natural and OK. Try not to avoid it. If it becomes unbearable, reach out.”
The images shown during the holiday season on television and social media are “flooded with shiny new items and smiling faces,” he said. “While most of us know these images aren’t realistic, we can’t help but yearn for similar experiences.”
Some suggestions to deal with what might be a lonely holiday season were to reach out to loved ones via phone or video chats such as FaceTime or Zoom.
“If there are no others to reach out to, I would say do your best to plan something that you enjoy,” Grantham said.
He suggested going out for a hearty meal, cooking something comforting, watching a comfort show or film, treating yourself to something new or going for a walk or run. “Volunteering or engaging in some other activity to help others can also be very rewarding and serves to get your mind off of the things that may be bothering you,” he added.
For stressful family situations, Grantham suggested extending grace and understanding and setting healthy boundaries. Set a time limit for attending events that you don’t want to miss but are guaranteed to be a source of stress. Don’t engage in conversations about topics you are uninterested in discussing. Make the decision not to attend events that are sure to cause turmoil and stress.
“I read advice recently that ... suggested accepting that this is not the time to engage in debates or arguments, but rather to enjoy the people around you and reconnect with those who are important to you. While it isn’t always that simple, it isn’t a bad place to start,” Grantham said.
His last piece of advice was for friends and family to be there for one another.
“Be patient, tolerant and kind,” he said. “Give yourself and others a break and the benefit of the doubt. This season is hard for so many, and it is important to keep that in mind as we are caught up in the hustle and bustle.”
- Contact Katherine Parker at 662-581-7239 or kparker@gwcommonwealth.com.
